More Updates after the Wedding ..

It's funny how you are 'on the ball' before the wedding, and just soooo the opposite after the wedding .. :( we are just too relaxed after the wedding, hence, which explains why we haven't updated this blog .. We are still getting used to our 'new life'.

More pictures of the wedding are available at my friendster .. www.friendster.com/shoby ..And here some links to our friends' blogs who have written about our wedding :) And to Jecy and Wen Sze, thank you for potraying our wedding so beautifully.


Wen Sze's page

Monday, July 09, 2007

I love weddings!
I simply do!I think each wedding is always special, always 'the best' for the couple and I do hope that couples realise that when they plan their wedding, the most important people to please is themselves coz ultimately, it's THEIR special day... No need to feel so pressured to measure up or please so-and-so or top the other weddings but just remember to plan one that suit their tastes and personalities.How did I get to this topic?Easy, I attended my ex-colleague Shoby's wedding on Saturday, on the much sought-after date of 07-07-07. Her wedding was really nice, a 'harmonious' blend of Christian beliefs and Indian traditions. It was just so nicely weaved together and she looked gorgeous in her wedding saree.I especially liked how the service was focused on the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and appreciating the sacrifice that our Lord made for us and His part in bringing the couple together. I also felt this way at Dora & Bernard's wedding previously.It was a very nice and refreshing feeling as I thought that most weddings (mine included!) tend to focus too much on the couple and blessing the couple i.e. it's all about me, me, me. I guess I never realised that until I actually saw how it could have been done otherwise.I'm sure God was glorified through our wedding but I guess, we could really have done more. It was such an excellent opportunity to share the word of God and love of God with our non-Christian family members and friends. I guess we just never thought of it that way. We were more concerned about being sensitive to the relatives' needs, not wanting to offend them but I guess we all have to learn that God's ways are higher (and ultimately, more important) than our ways.Well, I've learned my lesson so let's hope I remember this for other aspects in my life.Anyway, back to Shoby's wedding, her pastor gave a really good sermon about a woman completing a man's life and vice-versa. He mentioned that (in Genesis) Adam never knew that he was alone, but it was God who thought that it was no good for man to be alone and thus created Eve. Ultimately, God is in control.He also used a very powerful illustration which I'm sure also spoke to many of the married ones there (yours truly included). He asked the bride and groom to hold opposite ends of a rope. Then he pulled them together and said, this is how close you are now on your wedding day. However as days go by and when well-meaning parties decide to give you advice on how to handle your wife/husband and when you try to pull your partner over to your side (to agree with you), you can only draw further and further apart.However, if you both decide to seek the One who is higher than us and to look to God for help, you will only grow closer and closer together (He said this as he pulled the middle of the rope up towards God and the couple naturally drew closer). I don't know if you can imagine it correctly but it sure was a powerful reminder for us to be prayerful about everything.So to the newlyweds Shoby & Rannet and also Dora & Bernard, thanks for inviting me to your wedding and for helping me to learn this wonderful lesson. God bless you as you journey on as husband & wife.
Just another whimsical thought by Wens at 12:11 AM

Jacinta's page

Tuesday, July 17, 2007

More on weddings Since I'm still in a funk, I guess its best to write on other things than the mess thats on my mind. Thinking happy thoughts! :-)S&R's wedding was sweet, they both looked lovely and the church service was pretty special. It was at my dad's church, also the church where my parents were married. The sermon was really nice but I can't remember the pastor who delivered it except that he was a youngish chap. He was funny and spoke in a youth lingo to a crowd full of pastors, which made it even more hilarious.He began with a joke, which I surprisingly can still remember. A couple was really nervous on their wedding day and so the pastor had a word with them, "Calm down and focus on these 3 things. First focus on walking down the aisle. Then look up ahead at the altar. And finally, look at each other, look at him, look at her." And so the bride at the entrance repeated softly under her breath, "Aisle, Altar, Him". Over at the Altar, the groom went, "Aisle, Altar, Her." Needless to say the mothers-in-law on both sides had to be restrained. Funny?In the middle of his sermon, he made S&R stand up and hold a piece of rope between them. He made them stand really close to each other and told them, "Right now, you must feel a lot love for each other but naturally problems will arise and you will become distant to each other," as he made them move further away from each other. "Then you'll have your girlfriends wagging fingers and telling you, make sure you teach that fellow a lesson, only then will he learn. And on the other end, the most henpecked husband will be preaching to you, listen macha, you must show her who is the man of the house." And again he made them move further away from each other until the rope became taut and made them take turns at pulling it. "As you both try to pull each other to your side, as you refuse to compromise, the problem will persist and may even lead to one or both of you falling or letting go of your end of the rope." Then he lifted the middle piece of rope high and naturally the both of them were pulled back to the middle and he said, "But if you take it up to Him, you'll find your way back to each other again." A tad preachy and sickeningly sweet but so true!But of course I had to live up to my devilish side and so I didn't restrain a very naughty Jembalang from taking self-portraits of the 3 hantu's right there in church mid-service! And I can't expect not to have been recognised either since my dad's sister was sitting 2 pews away. Heheheh!